Tuesday, March 15, 2011
Finding Daily Time for Me :: Mom2Mom
By Stephanie Kay
Today I'm beginning a new feature called Mom2Mom. Several of you responded to my survey back in January saying you'd like to hear about some of my struggles as a mom. Well, that's what Mom2Mom is about. Just a conversation from one mom to another about some of the hard points of this motherhood journey.
Today's Mom2Mom conversation is: Finding daily time for me.
From the moment my precious firstborn arrived home from the hospital he has demanded all of my time and attention. Those first months were spent grabbing showers and catnaps when Will chose to sleep. In other words - they were pure torture. My pediatrician gave me some great advice back then. Dr. S. said, "It won't hurt him to cry while you take a shower. No child ever had to go to the hospital for crying too much." I took his words to heart!
Fast forward 7 years and 3 more children and finding a few minutes for me each day has become even more challenging.
I know some moms who get up at the crack of dawn before their children to fit in an hour or so of peace and quiet. I am NOT a morning person and two of my children definitely are. That means as soon as they hear feet hit the floor they are up and raring to go.
I know other moms who enjoy time for themselves while their children are at school. I home school. That means my children are with my 24/7. Not only do I not get school hours to myself, I'm spending them teaching my children.
So, how do I make time for myself each day?
I have made our daily schedule so that ALL four of my children go down for rest/nap time after lunch. All of them. It's not negotiable. The 2 big boys (6 & 7 years) must stay relatively quiet in their room for at least an hour. The 2 littles (2 and 4 years) must sleep for at least 2 hours. This way I get at least 1 whole hour every afternoon to myself.
Unless it's a day like today when the doorbell rang about 20 minutes after putting everyone in bed. After that I kissed my quiet time good-bye.
The second way I make time for myself is at night after the kids are in bed. I am a night owl. The still quiet of my home at night is when I think best. So that's when I write a lot of my blog posts.
And stay up way too late. Which then makes it hard to get up in the mornings and just perpetuates the cycle.
It's not a perfect system but most of the time it works. And on the days it doesn't work (like today) I try not to get frustrated that I'm not accomplishing what I wanted to for the day. I try to remember that in 20 years I won't regret not writing one more blog post but I will regret not reading one more book with my 2 year old son.
How do you make daily time for yourself?