Mom2Mom: a conversation between Moms about
the hard points of this motherhood journey.
My full calendar wore me out last week. Seriously. Twice this month I've had packed weeks and twice I've ended up with migraine headaches at the end of the week. I'm starting to think I'm a little overcommitted.
What are my overcommitted symptoms?
Tell me if any of these sound familiar:
- I dread going to activities that I enjoyed at the beginning of the school year.
- I throw together lessons for my weekly home school co-op class the night before.
- I stay up until midnight every night trying to "catch-up."
- I throw together lessons for my son's Cub Scout group hours before I lead them.
- I use videos to keep my children entertained.
- I'm grouchy, short-tempered, and easily frustrated.
What caused my overbalance?
I didn't become overbalanced all at once. It happened bit by bit.
I gradually took on responsibilities at my kid's extracurricular activities. I decided to participate in a local home school co-op and to teach one of the classes my boys attended. Then we signed Will up for Cub Scouts and, due to a limited supply of volunteers, I agreed to lead every 3rd meeting for his den.
I increased my blogging activities. I set a goal for myself to blog 4-5 times a week. I also accepted more responsibilities at Offering Hospitality as Carrie, the editor, prepares for the birth of her third child. Then I set up a Facebook page for SMB to provide another avenue for connecting with readers.
I cut out exercising, cooking healthy meals and consistent quiet times in order to fit in everything else. Why is it that when we start getting ourselves stretched thin we cut out the activities that we need most?! The physical result of no exercise and too many Domino's pizzas has been an extra 5-8 pounds and one pants size. The spiritual result is less tangible but no less felt.
How do I stop being stretched thin?
The problem is that all of my activities are good ones. They each add to family life, teach my children something new, or provide a creative outlet for me. So, how do I pick and choose where to spend my time? Clearly something has to give, and soon!
Are you also overcommitted? How do you keep life in balance? I'd love to discuss this further in the comments!